Reaching 11 years.
I was a big chopper. My twin sister and I use to have leisure curls however they were costly and my father ceased further payments. I chopped my hair to about an inch and a half and wore corn rolls for quite awhile. Our hair was very thick and waist length before the chemicals however after a few years we experienced extreme shedding and loss of thickness. However you are in a state of denial trying to convince yourself, “Hey it’s not that much.” Or “It’s just your hair naturally shedding, just needs more moisture.” Lol, so now looking back upon it I’m happy my father refused to pay for further treatments.
How would you describe your hair? Very thick 4c/ 4b hair.
That it looks like locs which never crossed my mind until people frequently started inquiring if my hair is loc’d. It’s a braid out however quite a bit of people think locs and albeit I am in love with locs. I’ve had a love affair with the braid out for most of my natural hair journey so I feel I can have the best of both worlds.
What has been the most memorable part of your journey? Has it been easy or difficult or both?! When I was growing my hair out it was never difficult for me but I felt like it was difficult for others to accept, especially when I wore it out in a mini afro. People would make snide comments, mostly young black teenagers or women. I remember years ago when I was on the train and this girl who had very thin damaged relaxed hair seated across from me was snickering to her friends and snidely shouted at me, “Oh hey look it’s Macy Gray!” Then I said, “Oh hey look it’s Daddy Warbucks.” I don’t care how a woman rocks her hair but I never understood why women donning weaves or processed hair would criticize me for choosing to wear my hair natural. Looking back on that incident I laugh and something like that now would never phase me however I was always confounded that the support I thought I would receive from most black women by going the natural route was nonexistent for the most part. However now I receive tons of positivity towards my hair but I’ve always been happy with my natural hair whether short or long. Of course compliments make you feel good and I truly appreciate them when given however the satisfaction of my appearance or how I feel about myself never depended on the opinions from others. This was a motto I leaned on for support when I didn’t receive mostly positive compliments from strangers for my hair when younger after the big chop.
What are some of your favorite hairstyles? I wore corn rolls for a very long time until my hair grew out to about ten inches then I started rocking afros and braid outs. Once my hair grew longer the braid out became my favorite style and the way I wear my hair most of the time with different looks from updos to French braids or a large side ponytail. When I’m performing on tour for music I wear my hair in large braids.
What have your experiences been as a ‘natural? Any memorable reactions from family or others? My family was always supportive however I lucked out and had the best kind of support system in the world. Not every girl who chooses to go natural has an identical twin sister who is a best friend who is also experiencing going natural at the exact same time. I had that and couldn’t have asked for anything better, lol.
What is your hair regimen (including fav products)? 100 percent is my favorite ingredient for hair products. I use a mix of extra virgin olive oil, coconut oil, jojoba oil and rosemary oil to moisturize. I braid my hair before I co-wash then let the conditioner sit on my hair under a shower cap (aka plastic bag since it’s big enough for my hair lol) for an hour or two as a deep treatment. Wash out the conditioner then air dry or use a hair dryer on the ‘cool’ level and when about 75% dry I begin to unbraid and moisturize because I like the puffier look with my braid out then apply castor oil on hair and massage into scalp and around edges. Then I divide the braid out into 6 large, loose twists then scrunch them into individual loose buns. Then I pull the six loose twist buns into one and rap into a scarf which helps maintain the defined braid out look and moisture. As far as applying heat goes I have not applied heat to my hair in 10 years. The only heat on my hair is the natural heat produced from my scalp for deep treatment.
I would say that it’s something I didn’t pay much attention to until I joined Instagram, over a year ago. However there is one site, Urbanbushbabes.com that I follow often. My twin sister, Cipriana, is the co-founder of the site so that is my go to site, no nepotism lol. I like that the site concentrates on not only natural hair beauties but cultural and social issues as well entertainment in a way that is seamlessly connected with the natural hair community. I definitely have my favorite Instagrammers, most of which have youtube channels, so I’ll name a few: Urbanbushbabes, (of course!) chescaleigh, heyfranhey, yagazieemezi, lifewithcoco2, baronesscountess, naturalbelle and Jouelzy. However I would love to see more 4c love within the natural hair community on Instagram. I’ve noticed that defined curls get the most love and some natural hair instagram pages have not posted any 4c love which to say the least is disappointing. There are plenty of women and young girls who have 4C hair and the representation of that on Instagram is not nearly as prevalent as women who have more defined or loose curls. A new, wonderful instagram page: 4ceenatuarals is dedicated to 4C hair.
Anything you want the readers to know? Inspirational words? Some people are so insecure or miserable with themselves that the only way they can feel happiness is by tearing others down. Learn to love your mind body and soul. Never let anyone negatively affect the way you feel about yourself. If someone doesn’t like your appearance or your confidence then that is THEIR problem not yours.
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